Comments on: An After School Meltdown Strategy that Actually Works

By: Shelbi Simon Blank

Shelbi Simon Blank — Fri, 31 Aug 2018 03:53:10 +0000

In reply to Sharla Kostelyk. I totally agree with it this!! I’m so happy I found you and this site!

By: Full Spectrum Mama

Full Spectrum Mama — Thu, 29 Mar 2018 15:44:52 +0000

YES!!!!

That re-set aspect is SO important. As you note, my impulse was always to “check in” – NOPE. Wait!!!!!

Thanks and love,
Full Spectrum Mama

By: Jules

Jules — Mon, 19 Mar 2018 03:03:21 +0000

Going to try and implement more! Have to smile at the asking how their day is comment, we might as we’ll ask her if she’d like to walk across a bed of hot coals if this questioned is asked before snack and quiet time post school.

By: Sharla Kostelyk

Sharla Kostelyk — Fri, 16 Mar 2018 21:43:03 +0000

In reply to Alexandra. For kids who are prone to after school meltdowns, asking them about their day as soon as they walk in the door tends to set them off even more. With our daughter (as with all of our kids), we encourage them to talk to us, but in our daughter's case, we wait until after she has had time to reset and is regulated before we ask her about her day. She is much more talkative and receptive later once these other steps are taken.

By: Sharla Kostelyk

Sharla Kostelyk — Fri, 16 Mar 2018 21:34:11 +0000

In reply to Mindy Levit. Quiet time outside instead of in her room can be a good alternative. That way, she will get some fresh air and not fall asleep but she will still get the re-set she needs. Let me know how it goes!

By: Mindy Levit

Mindy Levit — Fri, 16 Mar 2018 11:50:53 +0000

This sounds great but if she falls asleep and doesn’t want to get up then what could u suggest. My dauggter is 4 and a half. She has after pre-k meltdowns and my husband and pick her up. We can’t wait to see her after school until she starts her meltdowns and or outbursts. Please let me know if you can think of something. Thank you

By: Alexandra

Alexandra — Wed, 14 Mar 2018 23:29:28 +0000

How about asking about your daughters day: encourage her to share positive thoughts, emotions, and feelings with people, and tell everything to you, even what is not socially acceptable: rumors, gossips, e.t.c

By: Shannon

Shannon — Mon, 26 Feb 2018 20:26:15 +0000

This is fantastic that also works for our daughter!! I like to say we need to “feed the fight” rather than “fuel the fight”!! Food first! I have always learned so much from you Sharla!